“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”       ~ Rumi

Wyld Acres
Mama Map Journaling Reflections


Sometimes we can better understand where we are by looking back at where we’ve been. By revisiting our own journey, we can begin to see patterns. We can then draw from this personal well of experience and innate, natural wisdom when we encounter new questions around our pregnancy, labor, birth, and subsequent parenting of this child. This Mama Map is a simple tool to help ground and center you when you need a reminder of *who* you are and *where* you’ve come from.

  1. Reflect on each of the following events and consider words to describe them, as well as any questions you may have about them. Include also how you know this information, how was it shared with you, and by whom. Sometimes the most valuable information can seem insignificant, so even if it seems “unimportant,” you are encouraged to include it.
  2. Make a note next to anything you don’t know and revisit it later, perhaps after asking someone else about it.
  3. Look back at your responses. What kinds of patterns do you see? What kinds of shifts do you observe? Describe some things you notice. What are you surprised by? What feels encouraging? What scares you? This is your Mama Map, a body of information to help you to see where you are *now.*

  1. Your mother’s conception (Your mother held the same eggs that eventually created you, so you were actually present for her pregnancy and the rest of her life journey. Share what, if anything, you know about the way your mother came into being.)
  2. Your mother’s life in the womb (What do you know about your grandmother’s pregnancy with your mother?)
  3. Your mother’s transition (How would you describe your grandmother’s labor? Where was she? What were the practices used on her back then?)
  4. Your mother’s birth (What are the stories surrounding the arrival of your mother? What are the joys? The wounds?)
  5. Your mother’s childhood, development, relationships, life experiences (Elements that you consider important to her? To you?)
  6. Your mother now (How would you describe your relationship with her now, in whatever realm she now dwells?)
  7. Your father’s conception (Share what, if anything, you know about the way your father came into being.)
  8. Your father’s life in the womb (What do you know about your grandmother’s pregnancy with your father?)
  9. Your father’s transition (How would you describe your grandmother’s labor? Where was she? What were the practices used on her back then?)
  10. Your father’s birth (What are the stories surrounding the arrival of your father? What are the joys? The wounds?)
  11. Your father’s childhood, development, relationships, life experiences (Elements that you consider important to him? To you?)
  12. Your father now (How would you describe your relationship with him now, in whatever realm he now dwells?)
  13. How did your mother and father meet?
  14. Your own conception (How did you come into being?)
  15. Your life in the womb (What kinds of stories are told about your mother’s pregnancy with you? What other events took place during that time?)
  16. Your transition (How did labor begin? Where did the labor take place? What other ideas do you have about your labor?)
  17. Your birth (What are the elements that are highlighted in your birth story? By whom? Why? What presents as important to you?)
  18. Your childhood (What are some details about your earliest days, weeks, months, years? Which memories carry and shape you now?)
  19. Your menarche (When did you get your first period? Where were you? How was it responded to, by you? By others?)
  20. Your first sexual experience (How do you remember your earliest sexual experience? Individually? With a partner?)
  21. Your sexual history (How would you describe your story of sex before this pregnancy? Do your memories include violation? Trust? How has it changed over time? What were the circumstances around your previous pregnancies, terminations, or miscarriages?)
  22. Your current sexuality (How would you describe your current sex story?)
  23. Your conception of this baby (What is the story of the conception of this child? Details and highlights? Timing? What stands out to you about it?)
  24. Your pregnancy (When did you know? How did you know? How did you share it? When? With whom? Highlights, lowlights, feelings, questions, concerns, joys, dreams, wonderings, obsessions, cravings, moods, interests, prenatal care, healings, challenges, decisions, challenges overcome, birth plans, other events taking place during this time.)
  25. Your labor
  26. Your birth

© Wyld Acres

“I really am your gift. I am not just a little person who needs to be “raised” and taught, and taken to activities…I came to the people in my life to bring a message: slow down. Feel. Be. Over and over again. When you do, you will notice immediately, that I am not an obstacle to your work, or inconvenience to your daily life. Instead, you will come to appreciate my honesty, humor, presence and love.” ~ Bruce Scott

 

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